Make A Big Deal About His Penis
Being on Quora has reminded me how very hung up most men are about their penis. And it’s not just teenage boys, who could be excused, a lot of grown men are very worried about being big enough, or hard enough, or lasting long enough, or squirting enough, or squirting far enough (yes, really).
Before you poke fun that men are like this, think about all the body image issues women have. Men just put all of that onto one (little!) part of their body.
And men have an additional problem since their penis is expected to “perform”. He thinks he has to get erect on command and avoid not getting erect when he fears she will get upset if she thinks he’s horny. In his mind, he is expected to last as long as she wants, but no longer. A man puts a lot of demands on his penis and usually assumes his wife does the same.
Then, of course, there’s the fact most men think the average penis size is considerably larger than it really is. The vast majority of men think they are undersized, and almost half of them are wrong. (For the record 5.1 inches is average.) So he is convinced he’s too small, even if he’s not, and he thinks size really matters a whole to his wife. A lot of men are convinced their penis is a disappointment to their wife and she says it’s not just to be nice or because telling the truth wouldn’t help.
So, sometime soon, wrap your hand around that thing and tell hubby how much you like it and what he does for you with it. Repeat every so often.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and I know men can get really messed up about this.
BTW, my friend J. Parker dealt with the size issue recently in Q&A with J: Doesn’t She Really Want a Bigger Penis?. Aside from being a great post, some of the comments are very good – especially for men who are worried.
Speaking of sexual problems: A a couple of Christian sex therapists are writing a book about sex. You can help by doing a 5-minute anonymous survey.