Be Blunt About Sex
If you want something sexual from your hubby, or you want sex to happen differently, you need to be blunt about it.
I’ve told you men are bad at hints in general, and it’s even worse when it comes to sex. Studies have found that single men greatly overestimate how interested in sex a date is. Other studies have shown most married men underestimate how much their wives want sex.
My guess is the first leads to the second. He slowly figures out much of what he sees as a hint, or an outright invitation, is not. Even if he doesn’t sleep around before marriage, once he is married he quickly realises much of what she does that he sees as a come-on is not that to her. If thinking she wants sex when she doesn’t causes problems, he will quickly decide to play it safe and ignore anything other than a clear offer or an unmistakable flirtation.
Beyond just getting him to have sex, blunt is also the way to deal with sexual problems. If he leaves you hanging, let him know you want and need to climax. If you say nothing he can assume you’re okay because if you tried to stop before he was done he would be very fast to protest. Likewise, if he is too rough, or is not touching the right place, or is doing something that doesn’t make you feel good. Because society says men are supposed to know all about sex most guys will fake it, and the odds of that being what you want are close to zero. Be loving and gentle, but be very clear about what you want and how you want it. Also be clear about what you don’t want and what is doing nothing for you. If all else fails, show him how to do it.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and I like blunt!