The subtitle of this blog is “Decoding the Male Mind”. That suggests there is an order and reason to what men think and do.

The difficulty here is you are a woman. You have a female mind with female thoughts and reasoning. Your husband is not a woman, and he neither thinks nor reasons like a woman. Because of this, he questions your logic and you question his sanity. 

Men and women have different priorities, concerns, and goals. Even when one part of that is the same, such as a goal, the reasons behind the goal and the logical steps to filling the goal are going to be different.

What if how he thinks is not broken or stupid? What if he is not actually motivated primarily by selfishness? What if his thinking is reasoned and valid, given the fact he is a man? What if his reasons for doing certain things are actually good reasons in his reality? What if his reasons for not doing certain things makes perfect sense in his reality?

And what if you started to assume he had valid reasons for what he does? How might that change your marriage?

If you want to get really radical, ask him to explain the good reason he has for doing something. If he thinks you’re asking to learn, rather than to judge, he might just open up.

~ Paul – I’m XY, and I assume women have good reasons for what they do, despite how it may look to me! 

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