First, the reality is virtually all married men, and the majority of married women, masturbate. Some do it a couple of times a year, some several times a week, but most do it. 

However, why husbands and wives masturbate is not at all the same.

Women tend to masturbate more often when they are sexually active with a partner. This is old news, we’ve known this for decades. It’s not universally true, and Christain women are more likely to try to not masturbate, but by and large, there is a positive correlation between partnered sex and female masturbation.

For men, it’s the exact opposite. The more sex they are having, the less the masturbate. They may still masturbate a good deal, but not as much as they would when they are not having sex.

Men masturbate because they are unhappy with their sex life. You might think this is about frequency, but it’s not that simple. A man who is satisfied with his sex life but having little sex will masturbate less than a man who is having more sex but it not satisfied with the sex. Basically, men use masturbation to make up for what’s missing in their sex life. That can be about frequency, but it’s more often about how they perceive the quality of their sex life.

If your husband masturbates occasionally, it means nothing about your sex life. If he does it more than that, it means he’s not satisfied with your sex life.

~ Paul – I’m XY, and I’m explaining, not justifying.

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Resource: Men and women masturbate for different reasons | Psychology Today

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