In a comment on last week’s Abstinence And Visual Stimulation post, libl talked about paying some serious attention to your husband’s penis. She suggested “obsessing over it like a man may do with breasts”. She also suggested doing this even when you’re not going to have sex. It’s a great idea and one I’ve not mentioned in a while.

I suspect some women will shy away from this out of fear it will cause him to want even more sex. I doubt this is the case. It may give him “permission” to express his desire more fully, but it’s not going to significantly change his drive. On the other hand, it will make him feel loved and appreciated in a powerful way and that should be good for him and your relationship.

So, don’t be afraid to touch him! When you see him naked, take his penis in your hand. Or at least make a positive comment about how much you like his penis and what he does for you with it. When falling asleep or first thing in the morning, reach over and touch him. Or just cup your hand and hold him.

If this is new, do let him know what’s going on and let him know you will take it to the next level on request. Something like “I’m just enjoying myself. But if you get too horny, I’ll gladly take care of that.” should do it

~ Paul – I’m XY, and I thank libl for this post!

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