“Next time you’re tempted to rain on someone’s parade or feel like you need an umbrella from someone else’s downpour, remember that cynicism is just fear in disguise. Ditch the fear and go bold with a boatload of encouragement instead. Failure or not, we all need voices that shine light on dreams. The world is desperate for people who do this. Be one of them.” ~ Bob Goff in Live in Grace, Walk in Love: A 365-Day Journey

When I read that passage, I had a sudden flash of understanding of a few wives I’ve known. These women seemed to breathe cynicism, down talking the vast majority of what their husband proposed to do. I always wondered why these women were so negative and why they wanted to prevent their husbands from living. But thinking about it, I can see the women were rather fearful and I can see how their cynicism could be them opposing everything they felt might be in any way dangerous. This makes their actions more understandable, but it doesn’t make them right. It’s still hurting their husband and their marriage. 

That said, I do realise that most men are greater risk-takers than most women. This creates tension in a couple’s marriage that should be addressed.

• A wise man understands that he sometimes takes unacceptable risks and he learns to use his wife’s objections as a reason to check himself.
• A wise woman understands that taking risks is part of being male and asking her guy to stop is as good as asking him to castrate himself. She learns to voice big concerns and hold her tongue on the smaller stuff. She also learns to be honest about her fear rather than coming across as saying her husband is inept.

~ Paul – I’m XY, and now I have to ask myself if ever do this…

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