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There’s been a lot of talk about sex education in the news recently, with some seemingly advocating the benefit of sexual ignorance.

While what follows may seem like an off message rant, it really isn’t. Lori and I regularly see the fallout of poor or non-existent sex education.

Children who receive ongoing age-appropriate information about sex are less likely to be molested. Girls are less likely to be raped or coerced into sex by a partner as they grow up. Teens who get proper information start having sex later and if they do have sex, they are less likely to experience pregnancy or disease. And when they grow up and get married, those with good sex education have fewer sexual problems and better sex lives. So as I see it, good sex education is one of the more important things we do as parents.

Sex education is not “the talk” or a few talks. It’s hundreds of little things we say and do starting at a very young age. It’s looking for teachable moments and intentional teaching. Sex education should include biology, emotions, and the morality of sex.

You also have to understand the world your kids are growing up in. They will be exposed to porn and that will probably happen before they hit puberty. They will be told all kinds of things by friends who have no idea what they are talking about and if they’re in public school, they will get some sex education there. You need to get to them first, which means you will need to discuss some things before you would like and long before you are comfortable doing so.

I believe the person who teaches a child the biology of sex has an opportunity to teach them the morality of sex, so you really need to get there first. This means you teach them about birth control so you can teach them about waiting. It means you teach them about homosexuality and transsexuality so you can teach them what the Bible says.

I also suggest you teach them that masturbation is God’s way of escape from the temptation to have sex before they are married. (cf. 1 Corinthians 10:13) I know some have a problem with that, but it does help teens avoid sex.

~ Paul – I’m XY, and my parents gave me great sex education way back in the day.

A post worth reading:

PsyPost | Casual sex generally leads to more positive emotional outcomes for men than for women, study finds ◄ This study, which found that “women report significantly more regret, loneliness, and unhappiness than men in the wake of a hookup” and that “engaging in casual sex to cope with negative emotions tends to lead to negative emotional outcomes for both men and women” is the kind of thing your kids need to be taught!

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