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Last week over on The Generous Husband, I did a rewrite of a post that argued the high drive/low dichotomy in inaccurate and harmful. I listed a number of ways to look at the situation differently, and I think those could be very helpful for any couple who struggles because one of them wants more sex than the other. I’ve aimed this at woman, and in a few places left the genders unstated because I know some of you want more sex than your husband.

• One of us is ready for sex almost any time, the other needs time to get their mind and/or body into sex.
• A significant part of his desire for sex is physical, while my desire is more emotional (or mental, or relational).
• He can hit the bed running; I require at least ______ minutes of foreplay.
• He gets aroused because he feels desire; I feel desire after I get aroused.
• Intercourse is an important part of sex for him, but I can enjoy sex just fine without it.
• One of us wants sex more often, but the other is willing to accommodate if they are not expected to be all in.
• A lack of sex makes one of us feel unloved.
• A lack of love makes me feel unsexual. 
• I can honestly enjoy sex without orgasm. I wish he could believe that. 

~ Paul – I’m XY, and how you look at it makes a big difference.

A post worth reading:

Shaunti Feldhahn | The Church That Talked About Sex ◄ A growing number of churches are doing this well.

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