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The other day as I was looking through images Lori and I have used, I saw this one and thought I needed to do a post about it.

If you can’t see the image, it shows a man and woman arm in arm, both using the phones rather than hugging and being together.

I’ve had a number of men tell me they play second fiddle to their wife’s smartphone. And I’ve seen studies that show this is a serious and growing problem in relationships. Studies also show we tend to use phones differently. Men are primarily about entertainment, while women spend far more time building relationships. Multiple studies have found women spend more time on their phones, generally ten to twenty percent more.

I think there is a balance issue we all need to consider in our use of these marvellous devices. They are great servants, but they can become a master. That’s bad for us in many ways. There are also marriage specific issues that should be considered. 

I expect some fellow will show up in the comments to tell us how he can’t get sex because his wife brings her phone to bed. Maybe that is preventing sex, and maybe she is using it to avoid sex. The same is true for other things, the phone can be the problem or a tool used for avoiding communication and various forms of intimacy.

If your husband would say your use of your phone is a problem in your marriage, then it’s a problem. And if you know you are using it to avoid him in any way, that’s a problem. 

~ Paul – I’m XY, and I’ve never felt second to Lori’s phone!

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