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Does your husband seem blind to something that drives you crazy? Lights left on, drawers left ajar, or something in the kitchen put up in the wrong place?

This is human nature. We naturally notice different things. Some of us are more observant than others. Because of our past or our jobs, we may be hyperaware of things most folks ignore. Our personality can effect this, and gender can also be a factor. But regardless of why, there are things you see that he doesn’t, and he’s not intentionally ignoring whatever just to bother you.

Over the years, I’ve tried to become aware of things that bother Lori that I don’t naturally see. I’ve gotten better at some of them, but when I get busy or stressed, I don’t do so well. And honestly, it seems I can only hold so many in my head at once.

If your husband keeps missing something that matters to you, don’t take it personally. Being upset at him for not seeing it won’t help either of you. There are things that matter to me that Lori doesn’t see, and for the most part I just take care of them. If it’s a major problem for me, I’ll say something, but I keep that list short.

~ Paul – I’m XY, and it’s not personal.

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