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Last week, I talked to the guys about getting marriage help when you need it. Today it’s your turn.

I realise women are more likely to suggest and to attend counselling, therapy, or coaching. So maybe what you want to know is how to get him to go.

There’s definitely some pride involved in men not getting help. But more often men avoid couple’s help because they think it is a way of telling him what he’s doing wrong while she gets a pass. This is particularly a concern when the third party is a woman. Convince hubby you want to discover what both of you can do to make your marriage better, and he will be less resistant. Suggesting that dealing with some of your issues will improve your sex life will also motivate him. And, if you have significant sexual struggles, putting them on the list of things to deal with is a good idea.

Along these lines, Lori and I now do marriage coaching through Aldrich Ministries. Aldrich offers coaching for both individuals and couples, and most marriage issues can be addressed by coaching. Coaching is less expensive than therapy, and because it can be done across state lines and internationally, you have access to a great team no matter where you live.

Depending on your needs, you may or may not be paired with us. There are people who do story work, coaching for men or women, and help with porn and other unwanted sexual urges. Also, available are pre-marital and help with sexual difficulties. If cost is a concern, there’s a sliding scale. 

~ Paul – I’m XY, and where was this when we first got married?

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