The XY Code

“What is he thinking?”

How often do you say that to yourself? Or, maybe you go straight to “Is he thinking?”

Has he devoted so much of his mind to sex and sports that he is unable to focus on what you find important, or is his mind inherently different from your mind? In fact, his mind is different; partly because God made him male, and partly because of the way culture has shaped him (and you, for that matter). His genetic code is XY, while you are XX. The difference in chromosomes is minor, but it causes significant differences in your bodies, and your brains. 

What would happen if you gained a better understanding of his mind, his emotions, his drives and desires? At the very least, a few misunderstandings would vanish without any effort on anyone’s part. If skillfully applied, what you learn could help you see even greater changes. You could learn ways to communicate that were more likely to be heard and understood. You would discover ways to avoid or minimise certain problems. You would be more likely to get what you need from him, and you would be better able to give him what he wants.

This blog is not about fixing you… or him. Better understanding leads to a better marriage, and a better marriage should lead to positive changes in both of you – which will make your marriage even better.

You may be thinking, “But there are places where I need him to be fixed.” I get that, and we will discuss ways of working for needed changes, but understanding is usually a great starting place.

While we have a general direction set, we expect that direction to be adjusted by you, our readers. Your comments and emails will shape the blog, so please speak up!

~ Paul and Lori

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